Humans. No matter how different we are in terms of background, race and personality, we all share the similiar weaknesses and strengths.
We tend to always see others’ flaws but always failed to see our own. We laughed, we make funny remarks about how others’ life are, felt right thinking that they are such a joke. We said so much but failed to realise how would it feel if you were to be fitted into their shoes. And I am saying this, in general and that includes myself.
We felt sad that people do not understand, why we are they way we are. We felt hurt when others hurt us by their words but have we realised that we could be doing the same to others?
Life is structured to be like a wheel. It revoves in circles. There are days, smiles and laughters seem endless and then, there are days where pain and agony seems to be neverending.
That is why we need someone to walk us through the cycles of life. Be it the happy or dreading days of life.
Like for e.g. : when you received good news of maybe a promotion, the excitement can be so great as you felt the sense of accomplishments and the feeling of euphoria makes you without realising it, sharing it with the whole world of friends and family. The encouraging words that will come pouring in makes you nothing but stronger and motivates you to achive even more.
Or maybe when you lost something dearest to you, but means nothing to others. And you feel that you need to share your woes of losing that precious one. Not because you want to trouble others with your craps but just to share your feelings. Then words of comfort came strolling in. It made you feel at ease, not much but calming.
Because to you it feels good to share it with people you care or meant something to you. People that you trust would not judge you in anyways. Someone that you feel comfortable sharing to. It is nice right to share. I will not deny it. It feels wonderful. That is why when someone shares with me their deepest feeling of sadness, I feel for them and when they share the most remarkable news about themselves, I feel great. Envy? I hope not! For envy is nothing but the root to evil and hatred.
To each its own. How they want to express their feelings, what they did or what they are going to do is never up to us. How will you feel when your life is being dictate by others? And because you do not wish to be the subject of the topic of the day, you ended up not being yourself and restricting the level of freedom that was given to you. When you are happy, in love, over the moon, feel free to express it. When you gives out the good aura, people do get influenced and get perks up. Not all, but still there is a chance. And when you’re down or angry, having doubts, do not be afraid to express it out. But of course, as humans we have to have our limitations. Don’t go overboard!
How would you feel when you put up the priorities in your life different from others and then they do nothing but mock you? Or You feel comfortable with the way you are, as you don’t feel that you are affecting others(for its your life) but being judged as someone so low, worse than a mucus?
Of course you’re upset. Sometimes these people tend to only voice out their opinions without realising the significant impact they could cause on others.
Its your life, you worked hell for the happiness that you dream to attain. As life is never a bed of roses, you have to go through a journey of hell rides and scary adventures and when you get there, why not be happy with it. Even if it means to others that its nothing but mere boastfulness on your part. Its your life! No one can tell you what to do or how you should do it. They did not feel those stormy rides with you, they will not know how you feel.
Before, you hv a diary of your own, where no one reads your ramblings bt yourself, as the day passes by and modern technology gets the better of us, we do it online. Your own space, your rights to say things about yourself, your hubby and your family, even friends. only different, it is not private anymore. When you take on this, you know, you will be faced with people abhoring your life, envious of your life, happy with your life, for some kind souls, they feel proud for your life and there will be a series of misunderstandings. To you, to hell what others have to say about your life, for they do not know who the real person that exists in you. Somehow, what they have to say, have no impact on you. But when negativities comes from people you adore so much, people you trust, people you care so much,feels comfortable with, especially when it is said behind your back, its heart-breaking, tear-jerking and absolute sadness.
For me, I rather have things said to my face. Any doubts or opinions, say it to me. Being human, you tend to miss to see your own mistakes. This will be less heart-breaking than hearing what others are talking about you behind your crampy little ass. I can handle confrontations on doubts or opinions better.
And if they are a person with an open mind, they will accept you for who you are and not for who you are not. To have flaws and lacks off is nothing but human. The ALMIGTHY created different personalities for a reason. We compliment each other. I may have nothing of yours and you may have nothing of mine, that makes it perfect. If everyone should be born the same, life will be nothing but sheer boredom and all of us will be wearing the same colour of clothes, wearing the same colour undergarments and having the same style of hair. That’s not human. That’s machine.
Instead of us always going on ones’ back and launching attacks(this include myself), why not we be more of a generous person. Go on, go upfront and say your views. Sharing views always makes a different. At least you tend to realise what you are lacking off and your flaws. From there, Insya ALLAH, with much sincerity and with the help of ALLAH, you can change it to be a better someone.
But again, there should be limits to everything. You should not change others’ just to suit you. That’s not fair and nice, that’s weird. Life is not supposed to be on force and tortures, life is supposed to be an adventure. Give others’ the freedom of their life, the same way you like, to have the kind of freedom that you are given. Give each other a break lah!
I am a sensitive damsel. And I too have flaws that I should work on but it is impossible to, without given the chance or the opportunity to. Everything needs time. Be fair to others.
Don’t group each other and then hurt another. Today may be a day for that someone but always remember ALLAH is fair, it could happen to you. Like I have said, life is a wheel and it goes in circles.
If you are a person with a good heart, you will create an opportunity and be more encouraging.
Well, we need each other, no matter how strange it is, its true. That’s life! If not, would there be more than a species living and breathing in this space called planet earth?
Ok, i just want to share what papa always say to me,
"jgn slalu sangka diri kita baik dan diri org ajer yg salah, blajar bermuhasabah diri".
"ukuran pakaian atau harta benda bukan harta yg kita akan bawa ke liang kubur, tapi hati yg baik dan amal ibadah yg ikhlas".
"Jgn sekali menyakiti hati org lain kalau tidak mahu disakiti".
One thing I know, its never our prerogative to judge others.
I too have to work on all these. I’m also human. To err is inevitable.
I will never regret my journey of life or the people I have in my life. If it is not for them, life is nothing but meaningless. Let’s not condemn but respect each other shall we?
Black, white, fat, thin etc. All deserve respect.
Ya ALLAH thank you for my life. Albeit the hardships and sorrows that I have to walk on.
PS: I am writing things in general. About how I feel.